All people want to get good outcomes in their business life and spend a great deal of time trying. Ever wonder why most people do not get the results they want?

Often when you look at their relations with others, you’ll see the answer. Typically, relationships with others covers a wide range from great to grim. It turns out that many other individuals are in a great position to help us out, but we don’t really try to cultivate their help.

Sadly, many people are not as engaged with each other as they should be. Plus, they really are not very courteous on a consistent basis. We could spend a lot of time on the overall subject of common courtesy, but I want to focus on three quick ideas. If we do much better in these three will see enormous positive results.

Initially we need to increase our appreciation of others. Second, is the level of overall engagement we have with others on a social level. Finally, is our overall general awareness of people-our sensitivity to them.

General appreciation of other people.

The key here is to be connected to others at a higher level than currently. Simple ideas and techniques work best to improve our connectivity. While people know what to do they often simply don’t do it. For example, simply saying “thank you” goes a long way. People generally help each other out. Perhaps someone did a favor for you recently. It could have been as simple as opening the door.The kind act registered in your mind that it was a nice thing, but you don’t say so.

Make it a habit to authentically say “thank you” to folks when they do something for you. Don’t save your appreciative comments for just the big things.

Say it frequently. In short, make it a habit.

When you’re nearby the person show your appreciation right then. Of course, be authentic. Make certain you use the right body language as well as the right words.

If you can’t talk to them directly still have to use another technique. So, take the time to make the phone call. Alternatively, you can send an e-mail message. Better yet, send them a hand written and thoughtful note.

Whatever technique you use the goal here is to have a direct connection with others. It want active vs. passive connectivity.

Be thoroughly engaged with everyone.

Everyone likes to feel honored. Far too many people use the comment “no problem” as a replacement for “you’re welcome”. While many people might feel they’re pretty much one and the same. More people agree with me then agree with those that think they are equivalents.

Note, your goal is to be fully engaged in all your relationships. Think about replacing the phrase, “no problem” with “my pleasure”. Test it out. You’ll see the difference My experience is they will all like” my pleasure” much better.

A similar thing applies when you’re asked how you’re doing. Saying “fine” is not same as saying “terrific”. All to often this simple interchange is without really noticing or caring. When asked how you are, be real. When you ask how someone else is, look closely to see.

I recall clerk at one of my customer’s offices. This person was always extremely pleasant. Every time I saw her and asked her how she was, she would say something like “terrific”. Frankly, I liked hearing that. I liked to reply in kind. Typically she would reciprocate with an even grander word. We would typically pass this ball back and forth frequently. Even though that’s about all we talked about they were wonderful engagements and I looked forward to seeing her again and again.

Genuine awareness of others.

It is vitally important we know what’s going on around us. It is our awareness of our situation. This ability is a vitally important skill Generally, this is a situational analysis.

it is a formal technique, but it’s very effective. And applies to a wide variety of areas in business.

As it applied to people, we all need to be more aware of the people around us. We need to pay attention. The overall objective is to be interested in the individuals. People notice when you’re actually interested.

Simply take the time to look at them and listen to them. Don’t worry so much about yourself, focus on the other individual and how they’re doing. Believe me, they will notice you doing so

Summing up.

Nothing we’ve talked about is difficult. And that’s just the point. The point is these simple things not done frequently enough.

Distinguish yourself from others by being a person who genuinely connects with other people; enthusiastically honors other individuals; and, acknowledges everyone frequently. You will be a much better person if you do this. And, the payback will be you’ll get better results because others will want to help you out.